Navigating Difficult Events
Navigating Difficult Events
In some of the more difficult events of our relationship with those who have wronged us, it may not be appropriate for us to reconnect face-to-face or establish an ongoing relationship with them. In such cases we may need a mature godly friend who can help us navigate this situation in a biblical way. No matter who it is or what they have done one thing that we should always do is pray for them. It is difficult for us to do that we must really pray for them. You may say: “I don’t think I can pray for God’s blessing on them. I don’t even want God to bless them!” I will tell you from experience as you begin to pray for them out of obedience to the Word of God, you’ll discover what it is to be true in your own life. You will find that you can no longer hate someone you’re praying for, someone you’re asking God to bless and restore to a right relationship with Him.
We must remember that we should do all things that God desires us to do: 1 Timothy 2:4 (ESV) 4 who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. First and foremost God wants all men everywhere as far it is possible to have salvation. We may be able to assist in that ultimate objective by building bridges of love across the great divide. We must remember that each individual has free will to make their own decisions. Regardless of their response we should never stand between someone’s salvation and God by refusing to seek their blessings and restoration and then expect to experience a close fellowship with God ourselves.
Both yourself, and the other individual are set free when you choose to forgive and bless those who have sinned against you. You can become God’s instrument in His redemptive work, conduits of His mercy and grace. Both you and the other individual then become face-to-face with the reality of God’s love at Calvary, knowing we deserve just the opposite. The unexplainable and unmerited measures may prove to be the means of bringing them to repentance over their sin. “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.” C.S. Lewis
Luke 6:27–28 (ESV) 27 “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.
Romans 12:20–21 (ESV) 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
This part of forgiveness is where the rubber meets the road. I have placed these two scriptures above and would ask you, to ask God where He wants you to start applying these two scriptures to your life. Who is the enemy you need to bless? What are some appropriate ways you can meet their needs, invest in their life, extend the grace of God to them?
“When Jesus, nailed to a Roman cross, prayed, “Father, forgive them,”
He wielded a weapon against which Caesar himself had no power.
Who can stand up to the force of forgiveness?”